I Pass Judgement

I haven't posted in awhile because I've been busy pretending to be an adult. I seem to have a manic desire to make something of myself. It probably has something to do with the fact that I'm limping into my third decade.

But tonight I am basking in my apparent ability to install a functional wireless router in my apartment. I am all that is man...

I am enjoying my new found freedom more than you even want to know. I'm mobile bitches! I can blog from the couch. I can blog from bed. I can blog from the shitter if I so choose.

I decided to check in on Filan's blog to catch up on all the goings on in rural Iowa and was absolutely blown away by her April 12th post. I don't even know where to begin. When I finished reading the post I continued to the comments. When I saw the words "Doc Love" I stopped breathing for a good three minutes. I have had a real problem with Whatta ridiculing my blog and the thought of him being a jackass on my friend's site and knowing that I would be responsible for unleashing him on her made me sick.

I didn't post a comment for two reasons. First, that post was obviously an opening of the emotional flood gates. I've always admired her ability to write candidly about her personal life. She's had a rough time of it lately and part of me just wanted to give her a big hug. She's good people and I sincerely hope everything works out for her. The other reason is that while I do have opinions about her dating posts, the truth of the matter is it's none of my business. The only thing that my commenting on that stuff would accomplish is making evrybody uncomfortable.

I have to say that I wish Whatta had not posted comments on her site. I also think that he was absolutely correct. No guy invites a girl to meet his mother if she's just someone he's hanging out with. Ever. Whether you've had the talk or not he's thinking about you as a girlfriend. Ladies, If you don't want to be his girlfriend; don't agree to meet his mother. The doc was also right when he said that she would not be having multiple hour make out sessions with another guy if she was really into SP. When you really care about someone you just don't do that. Here's the best I can explain my thoughts on this...

You can't have your cake and eat it too. You can choose to date multiple people enjoying what each has to offer and avoid having a relationship and that's fine. Everyone's entitled to have their fun. You can also choose to seek an emotional connection with another person; to understand them on a deeper level and reveal your true self to them. You just can't do both simultaneously. That's how people get hurt.